“What are your relationship criteria?” I was having this discussion with some colleagues the other day, and though we threw out a great many characteristics we were never able to come up with a true criteria. The point we came back to was that, while you could hold whatever standard you cared to that does not ensure that you would actually enjoy time spent with someone who conforms exactly to that standard. In short you don’t know future you well enough to pick your perfect match.
I think we came to the right conclusion, but I also believe that you shouldn’t fly entirely by the seat of your pants when it comes to relationships. There is not a criteria per se, but there are certainly certain characteristics which make falling into a valuable relationship much easier.
At the moment, I think that some of those things are:
an innate curiosity – a passion for learning about the world
a habit of cleanliness – pick the clothes off the floor please
a love of book and music – why would you need a television
a somewhat introverted personality – it cannot always be social time
a love for the outdoors – because nothing we have built comes close
compassion for others – awareness of your responsibility to leave this little blue ball better than you found it for everyone who shares it with you